![]() How long will this contract be in force? You can write a contract just for an evening, a weekend or an event if you like. This is a good place for some romance and poetry, even in a more pragmatic, detail-oriented contract. ![]() Many contracts start with a general statement of intent that puts all the more specific clauses into context. Rather than creating one more sample here, I’ll take a look into the purpose behind some of the clauses that are commonly included in contracts. We define it through conversation with our partners and observation of our partners, building an understanding of what’s important to them in their lives and what conditions support and invite their submission, and then making agreements that create a space for D/s in our lives together that’s comfortable and appealing for both of us.Īnd, of course, it’s well worth making sure that we and our partner are on the same page about which sort of contract we’re signing!Ī Google search for “BDSM contract” will find you sample contracts of many different kinds. ![]() The container is a metaphor for the understanding and agreement, shared between our partners and ourselves, of the border between the D/s dynamic we share and everything else in our lives. And the best way that I know of to achieve that harmony is to build a solid container. Successful D/s relationships, whether short or long, are usually those that find some way to acknowledge both partners’ full humanity and to fit peaceably among all your other passions and priorities. ![]() With this sort of contract it’s wise to put content before style (or libido) in writing, and to carefully consider what it would be like to actually live out the rules that we are proposing, day in and day out. It represents a personal commitment that we are making to one another, and its provisions are intended to be taken seriously. The other sort of contract is formalized documentation of the container between us and our partner. We can claim ownership of our partner’s very soul, demand the right to sell them to any party we choose, or stipulate that they will receive thirty lashes every day for the rest of their lives - without having to worry about how realistic or genuinely desirable any of those things would be to put into actual practice. The advantage of that sort of contract is that we can let our imagination go wild in writing it, and don’t have to get bogged down in details and practicalities. Some contracts are works of erotic fiction: props full of exciting ideas and hot fantasies that we and our partners do not actually intend to hold one another to. ![]() Some of us find the formality, structure and the sense of commitment and authority of a written contract to be highly appealing. Written contracts between dominant and submissive partners, often referred to as “slave contracts,” have a long history in the practice of dominance. ![]()
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